I’m looking for something with mutual respect for privacy.  The right person will be mentally and physically alluring.  Ever seen 9 ½ weeks? (That comes to mind).
I would be a friend, advisor, rather than a boyfriend (as an example: a source of hilarity, desire, ideas, inspiration but not clinginess).
Ideal is once or twice a month.  I know that I am entertaining, caring and loaded with adventure.